Therapy for life’s in-between spaces

Spiritually-integrated therapy for grief and loss, complex trauma, and living between cultures.

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Anxiety
A part of you scanning the future, determined you’ll never be caught unprepared again.
It often speaks in “what ifs”: What if I say the wrong thing? What if something happens to them? What if I can't handle it? You might notice a tight chest or stomach, trouble sleeping, and a pull to over-plan, seek reassurance, or avoid anything uncertain.

Getting to Know the Parts That Got You This Far

Self-Criticism & Perfectionism
A part that believes if it's hard on you first, no one else can hurt you, and if everything is perfect, nothing can fall apart.
You might notice a harsh inner voice, impossible standards, trouble accepting care, and never feeling finished or good enough.

Numbness & Dissociation
A part that turned the volume down when feelings grew too big to bear alone.
You might notice feeling flat or far away, watching your life from a distance, going through the motions, or slipping into your head to avoid your heart.

Hypervigilance
A part of you still on guard, as if the danger never ended.
You might jump at small sounds, watch faces closely for signs of trouble, keep your body tense, or struggle to relax even when nothing is wrong.

Shame & Worthlessness
A young part carrying beliefs it took on in moments when no one was there to help: "I'm too much," "I'm not enough," "It was my fault."
You might notice heat in your face, wanting to hide or disappear, apologizing for existing, and a quiet certainty that you are the problem.

Escape
A part that rushes in to put out the fire when pain breaks through, reaching for relief as fast as it can.
You might notice bingeing, doomscrolling, drinking, or overworking, followed by regret, and then the cycle starting again. In a world built to sell us quick relief, these parts never run out of things to reach for.

The things you’ve been struggling with aren’t signs that something is wrong with you.

They’re parts of you that have been working so hard, for so long, to keep you safe, often with no one there to help them.

They deserve to be met with kindness, and so do you.

Elsie Zhang

Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), MPS, MEd, CPC

Education

  • MPS, Psychotherapy and Spiritual Care, Emmanuel College, University of Toronto

  • MEd, Human Development and Psychology, Harvard University

Clinical Training in Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy

  • Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH): inpatient crisis and critical care; outpatient Bridging Clinic and Spiritual Care

  • Mount Sinai Hospital: inpatient antenatal/postpartum, surgical, and intensive care units

My Approach Draws On:

  • Parts work informed by Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST)

  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

  • Narrative therapy

  • Emotion-focused therapy (EFT)

  • Psychodynamic Therapy

  • Grief, Bereavement, and End-of-Life Care

  • Contemplative practice and mindfulness

  • Expressive arts approaches

I specialize in…

  • Grief, bereavement, and loss, including loss through serious life-limiting illness and disability, suicide loss, pregnancy and newborn loss, and pet loss

  • Adverse early experiences and intergenerational trauma

  • Perfectionism and harsh inner critic

  • Recovery from narcissistic and emotional abuse

  • Immigration and cultural adjustment

Frequently Asked Questions

Let’s Work Together.

The Unbroken

There is a brokenness

out of which comes the unbroken,

a shatteredness

out of which blooms the unshatterable.

There is a sorrow

beyond all grief which leads to joy

and a fragility

out of whose depths emerges strength.

There is a hollow space

too vast for words

through which we pass with each loss,

out of whose darkness we are sanctioned into being.

There is a cry deeper than all sound

whose serrated edges cut the heart

as we break open to the place inside

which is unbreakable and whole,

while learning to sing.

Rashani Réa, 1991